中文版：
这个回答不想写成流水账，权当给曾经一段漫长的时间做一个告别。
- 遭受重大情感创伤的人一般内心都比较善良，很容易把别人当好人，对方说的啥就算怀疑也愿意相信。哪怕最后被伤害被分手，也会在很长一段时间自责，不愿意去恶毒地诅咒对方，甚至一度还帮对方的恶劣行为“找理由”，不相信人真的可以这么垃圾。
- 所有的断崖式分手都是早有预谋，当你在无限付出青春、期望未来的时候，对方早已在悄咪咪地骑驴找马、与你切割感情。恶心之处就在于，不爱了还要给你画大饼、消耗你，直到他做好了一切准备、完美抽身之后，只有你一个人受伤的世界达成了。
- 在感情创伤中，被伤害的不仅仅是感情。除了你的期待、你付出的爱与恨、你经历的甜蜜与苦涩，还伴随着你一去不回头的青春岁月、你为感情所放弃的前程和机会、你在这段纠葛中所丧失的健康与快乐。很多人被拖了很多年，从怀着少男少女希冀的心，到最后被狠狠扎一刀，再对镜已是大龄，在婚恋市场上已经没有太多价值了，这条对女孩子尤其明显。
- 相信很多被伤害的、不甘心的人一定在分手后去质问过对方，这个时候才是你真的看清一个人虚伪、绝情、寡义、冷漠的时候，这个时候对方的形象跟前面那么多年都是割裂的，也许才是最真实的。伤害你的人不是不知道他伤害了你，只是人家不在乎，他早已在心里把自己的行为合理化了，就算你死了又怎样，人家依然可以心安理得地过下半生。不过惩罚他的事就交给上天好了。
- 可以肯定的是，这段感情中你一定也有做得不好的地方，有些确实是对方与你分手的部分客观原因，但分析到这里也就可以了，最后这样不是你的错。既然已经经历了、看清了，也就不要再埋怨、放不下了。一时半会儿肯定很难走出来，但要坚信自己可以走出来，不要陷入负面情绪的循环和无休止无意义的复盘，一旦意识到就赶紧抽离。
- 就算真的遭遇这一切不幸，也不可以顾影自怜。不要怨自己看错了人，我们都没有开上帝视角，每个时刻的选择都是奔着好处去的，放过别人，也放过自己。相信一切都是最好的安排，倘若真的结婚生子，最后再以离婚收场，到时岂不是更加艰难。从某种程度上，再不好的经历，不应该感谢，也应该感恩。不到人生谢幕，谁都不知道修的到底是不是正果。
- 不要钻死胡同，换一个思路。一生顺利、感情顺遂固然是好的，但这都可遇不可求，不必执着于此。既然不好的事情已经发生了，那就给自己定一个目标，体验从感情的低谷慢慢爬出来的感觉，就算最后到不了高峰，也可以在平地畅怀，这也是人生一段别样的风景。在这个慢慢爬起来的过程中，我们已经渐渐变成了更好的人，也值得更好的人。
- 要相信自己是珍宝，要坚定不移地相信自己是珍宝，要千千万万次、始终如一地相信自己就是珍宝！那些创伤、那些痛苦、那些分手后的困扰、那些午夜梦回的惊惧，都是来磨砺这珍宝的。我们勇敢地直面它们，我们真诚地感受它们，我们坚定地解决它们。
英文版：
I don't want to write this answer as a running account, just as a farewell to a long period of time.
- People who have suffered major emotional trauma are generally kind-hearted and easily regard others as good people. They are willing to believe what the other party says even if they doubt it. Even if they are hurt and break up in the end, they will blame themselves for a long time, unwilling to curse the other party maliciously, and even "find excuses" for the other party's bad behavior at one time, and don't believe that people can really be so rubbish.
- All cliff-like breakups are premeditated. When you are giving your youth infinitely and looking forward to the future, the other party has already quietly been looking for a new job and cutting off the relationship with you. The disgusting thing is that even if he doesn't love you anymore, he still wants to paint a big pie for you and consume you, until he is ready and perfectly withdraws, and only you are hurt in the world.
- In emotional trauma, it is not just the feelings that are hurt. In addition to your expectations, the love and hate you have given, the sweetness and bitterness you have experienced, it is also accompanied by your youth that will never look back, the future and opportunities you have given up for love, and the health and happiness you have lost in this entanglement. Many people have been dragged for many years, from the hopeful hearts of young boys and girls to being stabbed hard in the end. When they look in the mirror, they are already old and have no much value in the marriage market. This is especially obvious for girls.
- I believe that many people who have been hurt and unwilling must have questioned the other party after breaking up. This is when you really see a person's hypocrisy, ruthlessness, lack of loyalty, and indifference. At this time, the image of the other party is cut off from the previous years, and perhaps it is the most real. The person who hurt you is not unaware that he hurt you, but he doesn't care. He has already rationalized his behavior in his heart. Even if you die, it doesn't matter. He can still live the rest of his life with peace of mind. But let God punish him.
- It is certain that you must have done something wrong in this relationship. Some of them are indeed part of the objective reasons for the other party to break up with you, but the analysis is enough. In the end, it is not your fault. Since you have experienced and seen it clearly, don't complain or let it go. It will definitely be difficult to get out of it in a short time, but you must believe that you can get out of it. Don't fall into the cycle of negative emotions and endless and meaningless review. Once you realize it, withdraw quickly.
- Even if you really encounter all these misfortunes, you can't feel sorry for yourself. Don't blame yourself for misjudging people. We don't have a God's perspective. Every choice at every moment is for the benefit. Let go of others and let go of yourself. Believe that everything is the best arrangement. If you really get married and have children, and then end up in divorce, wouldn't it be more difficult at that time? To a certain extent, no matter how bad the experience is, you should not be grateful, but you should be grateful. Until the curtain call of life, no one knows whether the cultivation is the right result.
- Don't get into a dead end, change your mind. It is good to have a smooth life and a smooth relationship, but these are all encounters and not sought, so there is no need to stick to it. Since bad things have happened, set a goal for yourself and experience the feeling of slowly climbing out of the emotional trough. Even if you can't reach the peak in the end, you can still feel happy on the flat ground, which is also a different scenery in life. In this process of slowly climbing up, we have gradually become better people, and we deserve better people.
- Believe that you are a treasure, believe that you are a treasure unswervingly, and believe that you are a treasure thousands of times and consistently! Those traumas, those pains, those troubles after breaking up, those fears in the middle of the night are all to sharpen this treasure. We face them bravely, we feel them sincerely, and we resolve them firmly.
